What does it mean to be addicted to a feeling? Are we constantly craving the sensation? Or are we convinced that we cannot exist without it? Maybe a bit of both and beyond, I can’t provide a concrete answer unfortunately, but something I can share is the pursuit of my own happiness.
We are transfixed by the idea of happiness, we gain positive energy and are placed in a state where everything seems at ease when we experience it. This is a conscious state of our mind, and we want to experience it majority of the time. So I asked myself, how can something so fixed in my mind be taken away so quickly? Why is it so simple for someone or some event to hurt us, cause us sadness – a negative state that our mind does not want to be in, if we are so beheld by the idea of happiness? We experience life in a much more mental state than a physical state. Our outlook on life is built in our mind, so the choices we make and how we react to situations are directly correlated to how you want to live. For instance, if a particular event (or series of events) is making you less than happy, consider whether it is worth living in despair or if you can choose to feel content instead. Of course, at the time of the event irrational decisions are often made, but don’t lose sight of where you’re headed. If you’re truly addicted to happiness, train your mind to always crave the feeling.
The key to finding your happiness is just that – it’s your happiness. Be your own source of happiness, and don’t let others be the source of your happiness. Why are we in love with the concept of happiness anyway? We are in love with the idea because it stops time. Now reflect for a minute on how amazing it feels to be happy and how valiant you feel when time is stopped, even for a split second, when you experienced that laughter or joy. When you feel this, your mind is at ease because you are in control of your own mind. So don’t let others or any situation infiltrate your mind and lose control of yourself. As clichéd as it is, happiness comes from within yourself. Once people or events cease to be the source of your happiness then you will truly be happy.
The pursuit of happiness is about being strong and having power over yourself. For me, I train my mind and body to be strong. Whenever another person or a series of event, incites emotional distress in me, I question whether or not they deserve to have that type of influence over me. If the answer is no, then I revoke their power. Here’s a tip: the answer is almost always no.
Happiness is therapy, treat yourself (whether you need healing or not) by finding joy in the small things that come across your path every day. There is always a reason to smile every day, even when it feels like your world is coming apart at the seams, remember the beauty of human interaction and the world and you will find a reason to achieve what you are inherently addicted to and cannot live without – happiness.
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